Great post!! I have been far to emotional about this to post anymore as I don't want to get banned from this site. I love it here and after the feeling of Family and unity that was displayed when Duke was sick, I don't want to show an ugly side of myself............Oh please, thats not what you started off saying at all. The guy you have just described about could be any body of the drop-out, beach-bum hippie type. I watched a program last week set in the US about a group of teenagers born to mothers who use donated sperm [150 ??] by a twist of fate this people found their biological father, he was much as you described above, He lived in a tatty RV along with his pretty mongrel dogs who he clearly loved, they were his real family and he took better care on them than he did himself. I liked this man very much for the way he thought and for who he was. He had some very interesting thing to say.
The interesting thing was the way he was percieved by the youths he had fathered. Some thought just like you and were distainful and judgemental and some were clearly respective and very understanding of why he chose to live his life the way he does.
You dont seem to be able to grasp the concept of what a person looks does not reflect who they are as a human being. I am sure we call all identify with the fact that somebody can drive around in the most expensive of vehicles, wear designer labels, be dripping with gold, live in mansions .... ill gotten gains from dangerous gangsters, drug pushers, pimps ..... As long as they look smart thats okay??
There are far too many judgemental people in this world. Because someone is Obese doesn't mean they don't have some type of medical issue or disability as to why they are on the large side.
I would probably be viewed by the OP as being grotesque as I am not a small, petite woman myself.
I am sorry..................I would rather have a heart of Gold and be big and fat than to be a smaller, petite person that has an ugly heart and mind.